Relationships are Fragile

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Relationships are fragile.  The reason why we often hurt more the ones who love us most is because we do not realize this.

We take for granted the people who are always there for us and we care not to be as careful with their feelings as we are with people we hardly know.

A careless word.  A negligent irrespectful act.  We often think we can get away with anything when we are with the people who love us.

While it is true that they will extend to us their utmost understanding, it is also true that they are but human beings after all.

They get hurt.  And they get hurt the most by the people they love the most.

Relationships are fragile.  It is far easier to protect it and to take care of it rather than to mend it when it is already broken into a million shattered parts.

Must we spend our precious time trying to gather the broken pieces?  Or should we rather spend our moments checking our tongues, saying words of encouragement, holding the hands of the people who truly matter to us?

Relationships are fragile.  They are gifts to be cherrished and protected and taken care of as much as we take care of our own hearts.

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What is the Meaning of Life?

What is the meaning of life?

What is the meaning of life? The meaning of life is simple – it is love. There is no other. If there are other things we seek or need or strive for, it is only because of love. How we can understand it and grasp it with our finite minds. How we can be worthy of it, or how we can realize that we have been loved in times when we are most undeserving of it.

Wisdom, truth, power. They do not possess meaning in themselves. They are but avenues with which to be more acquainted with love, to be more immersed in love so we can discover who we really are and so that we may not lose what we have struggled so hard to find.

God is love. Family is love. Work is love. Passion, excellence, immortality, freedom, all these are but attributes of love.

The meaning of life is in this simple word. And we just couldn’t believe it. So we often take the detour instead of pursuing the straight path.

Whatever road you are in right now, do not be fooled. There is only one desire and one destiny. And you must find it if you truly desire to find what is the meaning of life.

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10 Religious Myths that Destory Our Relationship With God

10 Religious Myths that Destroy Our Relationship with God

1.God wants us to love others more than we love ourselves.

On the contrary, Jesus invoked us to love others as we love ourselves. He didn’t say that we must give up our own good. Without a right relationship with ourselves, without knowing how to love ourselves, we won’t even have the standard by which to follow Jesus’ commandment of loving others as we love ourselves.

2.The more suffering we undergo, the more God will love us.

God is not a sadistic God who derives pleasure from our suffering. If we ever suffer, it is to be strengthened and avoid further suffering later on.

3.God hates us when we are not perfect.

More than anybody else, it is God who knows everything. He clearly knows we are not perfect yet, and that’s why He is helping us. Why allow us to be imperfect only to hate us?

4.God will send us to an eternal hell due to a technicality.

There have been many religions built by virtue of the fear of being technically disqualified from heaven. These beliefs tell us that if we fail to perform certain things exactly as God wanted it to be, we would forever be cast into hell-fire as though God tricked us, wanting us to be condemned.

5.There is a clear division between good people and bad people.

Judge not so as not be judged. This myth clearly denotes exclusivity, that only one kind of people can be good and the others have no right whatsoever to be children of God.

6.God plays favorites.

This myth tells us that God only grants favors to a favored few, that He doesn’t perform miracles for all, that He cannot or will not heal us all because He doesn’t love us all equally. That’s just not true. He makes it rain both on the just and the unjust. He makes the sun to shine not only for a few people, but for all. Karma applies to all. The Law of Attraction applies to all. Love is available to all.

7.God can’t love rich people.

Abraham, Isaac, Joseph, even Job, they have lots of material possessions. But does God hate them?

8.People will do nothing in heaven except pray, sing and play harps.

If all that God ever wanted were musicians, he’d have just enrolled us all in music schools rather than dying for us, teaching us what it is to be fully human and fully Divine.

9.Our ultimate goal is to die and qualify for heaven.

“I am the way, the truth and the life”, Jesus said. A religion that points only to death will only lead to death and forfeits the gift of life given us by God.

10.Salvation refers only to the saving of the soul.

If all that God ever wanted were souls, He wouldn’t have allowed human birth into the physical form. It would have been easier because if we were spirits, we wouldn’t have been exposed to so many temptations like lust, greed, gluttony. If God doesn’t care for our physical well-being, Jesus wouldn’t have healed the blind, the lame, and all those begging him for another chance at life.

Why don’t you check your beliefs? Where is it based? Is it really based on the unconditional love of God for all His children? What’s keeping you from forming a good relationship with God?

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Allowing Love…

As I proceed with my 21 days of consciously improving my relationship to myself, of loving myself so I could later on love others more, I became aware of one reason that causes many of our heartaches.

I’ve realized that we are not allowing love in our lives, and for that reason, we are so often lacking in love.  This is however not a conscious choice, but a subconscious response that we do, and unaware of what we do, we are in truth blocking the inward flow of love into our lives.  How so?

By virtue of expectations. By experience or lessons taught us by other people, we have developed certain expectations on how we should be loved.  And if these expectations are not met, we immediately conclude that we are not loved.

But the truth is that we may be loved.  Maybe not in ways we wanted to.  Not in ways we’ve learned or were taught us, but in ways that person knew best how to love.

The same is true as regards allowing God’s love into our lives.  We have certain expectations.  A lot of expectations!  God should do this.  God should be that.  He is All-Powerful and All-Knowing isn’t He?  So He should do this if He loves me.

But what if He doesn’t do exactly what we want Him to do?  Does it mean He doesn’t love us?  But how can we measure His love in the first place?  Are we All-Knowing as He is?

Because of our expectations, we block so much love that should have flowed into our lives.  If we desire to love ourselves more, let us be kinder to ourselves.  Let us allow more love to flow in our hearts.

And if a person expresses love differently, say he is able to show more in deeds than in words, let us extend our understanding and our appreciation.  We are loved! And that’s what really counts  :-)

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Simple Stress Relievers

SIMPLE STRESS RELIEVERS

I felt stressed since yesterday. Ideas for my website and for topics of articles I could write about seemed to race in my mind and couldn’t stop them. There were two things though, that I did today that helped me relieve that stress.

1.  SING YOUR HEART OUT BABY!

It was good that my friend invited me after office hours to sing at a nearby Videoke bar. Being able to sing out loud and breathe really deeply, not to mention being a bit “senti” (sentimental), a lot of that stress have really been brushed off. Definitely recommended as a good stress reliever.

2.  PLAY LIKE CRAZY

Arriving at home, I saw my sister playing an interesting computer game called “Everest”. It’s a kind of game where you have to look for many objects amidst a bunch of mess. Nice ha! What happened was that I helped at first, glad to identify some hidden objects in that mess. Then I got to the point when I got hooked and so engrossed myself that I forgot all about my stress!

Being engrossed. PLAYING. Such things help relieve our stress. Such things help us LOVE OURSELVES MORE.

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What Do I Love About Me?

WHAT DO I LOVE ABOUT ME

When I first started my 21 days of loving myself, I thought it would be easy. But as the days went on, the more I realized how much reprogramming has to be made. It took years building my current relationship with myself, and it will not easily be rebuilt in a matter of days. It can start from here though, growth has to start somewhere, and it is good to start right and strong.

During this time of reflection, I’ve learned that I not only lacked love for myself. I’ve learned a shocking truth – that I’ve hated myself all these years. That was the reason I’ve found it easier to love other people. Because they were not as unlovable as me. But if I were to start out as a person apart from my current self, how do I become a friend to this person? What are the things I would appreciate in her? What do I love about me?

Without boasting or being affected by false humility I listed down the following things:

1.Her love for coffee. Coffee is not a mere upper, but a passion to her. She even put up a coffee shop, got net loss from the business and yet carries with her only good memories of her passion. Coffee is a symbol of home for her, of friendship, of good yet practical ideas shared by people who care for each other. I’d love her love for coffee.

2.Her being childlike. Up to now, she still enjoys toys and enjoys receiving and unwrapping gifts. It wouldn’t take much to make her happy. Yet few people realize this, how easy it would have been to put a big smile on her face.

3.Her love for books. Books give her a tremendous amount of understanding and exposure to things and places she has never been to in the physical plane. Being like a sponge however, she is able to absorb all her experiences reading as though it were real.

4.Her simplicity. Given the chance, she wouldn’t wear anything but a white shirt and a pair of jeans. She doesn’t like uniforms. She isn’t even fond of gowns, though she could definitely carry one when the occasion calls for it. She’s a homey person, you wouldn’t feel out of place in her presence.

5.Her empathy. It may not look it, but she is crying with you within in your hour of sadness. She can reach your darkest darkness, would listen and would try her very best to get you both out of that darkness.

6.Her fiery spirit. Sometimes she has quite a temper that would just burst if she feel she or someone else she loves is aggrieved.

7.Her love for gadgets. Gadgets and tools are definitely her thing. She can tinker on things here and there and come up with the next great invention to make life easier for all of us.

8.Her thoughtfulness. If you think everybody else has forgotten you, think again because she remembers. She will greet you on your birthday and give you a surprise gift. She would make you feel important, that you belong. You are being thought of, and that is very important these days when people are just too busy to care.

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