My ex-boyfriend and I had our much long awaited closure last night. We haven’t spoken for more than a year. I felt that last night was the right time for us to thresh out all the pains and hurts. We both asked forgiveness from one another and the closure finally happened.
The problem is I feel so hurt now and I hate myself for not being loved anymore by this person. I feel so bad at the moment. But I am fighting hard to overcome the pain. please help me.
From Marianne
RESPONSE FROM JOYCE
Dear Marianne,
Many times, even if we knew we did the right thing, we still can’t help but feel the pain, for we have loved after all. We have given our hearts to another person, and now it’s time to let that person go. There’s always something painful about goodbyes. We feel that we are parting not only from a certain person, but from a certain part of ourselves.
Times like these, we can only wait and trust that the pain will one day go away. It’s a process we have to go through so we can reach another phase in our lives, a new phase of growth and more joy coming our way. Let us bear this sorrow with patience and hope, trusting God will be there for us in our darkest hours. Cry when you can no longer contain the hurt , yet rest also once in a while so you can regain the strength to carry on. You will survive one moment at a time. Spend more days with your family and friends and fill your heart with as much love and attention from others who care for you. I know you can do it. God bless you!
Yours In Prayer,
JOYCE
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