Dear Joyce,
i am going through a very rough time, my husband for 10 years just suddenly left me and my 2 kids for a younger woman he just met in HK. my husband worked in Macau and he lost his job late June. I was in China that time and i asked him to go to HK to get a china visa to stay with me.. but when he went to HK, he met this woman and for only 2 weeks, he left us.. he told our friends he doesn’t have plans of coming back to me and that he is happy and so in love. my husband cheated on me before, and every time i will ask him to let me go. but he wouldn’t let me..he always say he doesn’t want to have a broken family.. that he is only weak to fight temptations and he loves our family and our kids so much.. so this time, i was so hurt, for such a short time, he left me without saying anything. i just got to know it from my friends and Facebook. he even posted some pictures of him and the girl.. my kids are affected already, especially my eldest, she is very close to her dad. but she saw the pictures that were posted in fb so my daughter is now angry with her dad. this made me very angry and hurt but i still feel that there is something wrong… can you really fall in love with someone that fast that you can forget about your family? i still don’t understand. I love my husband so much… i just don’t know if i can get over him and if i can move on… please help me .. please pray for me…
From Whey
RESPONSE FROM JOYCE
Dear Whey,
God loves you and your kids. In Him rests my certainty that you will be able to get over your husband and find a new life that relies on God’s providence and protection.
Whenever we part ways with someone, we have so many questions in mind, and this includes your question on whether it is possible to fall in love with someone that fast. I haven’t fallen in love that fast yet, so I cannot tell whether that love is true. What I can however conclude is that your husband has fallen out of love already, and this happened through the years that you struggled to keep the relationship work. Finding a new relationship with another woman may just have been the way for him to finally let go of his relationship with you, something we can’t work out anymore.
For now, we have to go on without being able to answer all our questions. But the most important thing is to survive the days ahead and to protect your children from the traumatic effects of this breakup. It has happened already, we can’t bring back the hands of time, nor can we force the relationship to still continue.
You have to assure your children that they have no fault in this, and that whatever happens, they are loved. They shouldn’t feel guilty for this.
It would be very difficult on your part because you’re broken and you too, need to be healed. It’s here where we have to avail of God’s help. Talk to Him and tell Him all your hurts and anguish. Ask Him to help you through, to be there for your family at this very crucial time. He never disappoints anyone who asks His help!
Be strong, Whey. Don’t keep on looking back. Look at the present moment. Look at what you still have left, your beautiful kids! They’re God’s gift to you.
The future is filled with suprises. And whether you believe it or not for now, you can still be happy. We don’t know the way yet, but we trust that God can make one for you. Be blessed!
With Love,
JOYCE
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