To Understand Another

Instead of judging one another in ignorance, why not try to understand one another in love?

LORD, you have searched me,
and you know me.
You know my sitting down and my rising up.
You perceive my thoughts from afar.
You search out my path and my lying down,
and are acquainted with all my ways.
-Psalm 139, WEBBE

Each person is different. We have our own set of learnings and experiences that helped shape who we are. We were born with certain strengths and weaknesses. We were gifted with different temperaments, motivations and tendencies. We have a unique way of seeing things and coping through life.

Must we be surprised then if we cannot please everyone? If we cannot be easily understood?

Why must we feel so down when we do not meet another person’s expectations? And why expect from someone what we can only expect from ourselves?

Only God knows who we really are and what we are capable of. It is His opinion of us that truly counts.

God’s Patience With Us

God is patient and gentle with us because He knows how quickly we bleed.

Like a father has compassion on his children,
so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him.
For he knows how we are made.
He remembers that we are dust.
-Psalm 103, WEBBE

God can be patient with us first of all because of the greatness of His love. He is love Himself, He is patience Himself. He created us in love and imprinted upon us His own image, an image of love.

When sin corrupted that image, God also knew how far we have fallen from holiness and perfection.

He knows our weaknesses and our ignorance. He understands our pain. He knows how hard we try and how often we fail.

This does not exempt us from sins we are well aware of, however. (Jesus often criticized those who were hypocrites, those who deny their sins.)

Yet even with these He still had patience with. Up to our very last breath, God bears with us, for He knows that we are but dust. We are not like the fallen angels who are spirit and who knew far more than we do about God.

Let us treat our fellowmen the same way, with great patience, and remembering too, that we know not what’s in the heart of another, for only God can weigh the human heart.

Love and Understanding

I’ve always thought that in order to love people, you must understand them first. But later I wondered: If we truly wish to understand people, wouldn’t it be better if we first loved them?

Every way of a man is right in his own eyes,
but the LORD weighs the hearts.
-Proverbs 21:2, WEBBE

How far can we go in loving other people in times when we cannot understand? How do we love when we cannot see? How do we love when we no longer know where to even begin?

To Love and Understand

When troubled, do not begin
where you cannot understand,
where you can find much fault,
where it is truly dark.

Do not begin where you are right,
and the other one is wrong.
Do not start where it hurts
and you felt unloved.

But begin where you can see
just a little bit of light,
Begin by looking for the good
begin by being kind.

Soon you’ll see souls
merely trying their very best,
Soon you’ll see wounds,
and hearts that need some rest.

By beginning with love,
you will start to understand,
It is compassion that will save you both,
as you now walk hand in hand.

Acceptance and Peace

Acceptance of our limitations brings us one step closer to peace.

Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time, casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you. – 1 Peter 5, WEBBE

There are many times when we feel troubled because we cannot accomplish the good we desire to do. We may see our loved ones sick and we cannot heal them. We may see so many people hungry and we cannot feed them all. We may see so much injustice in the world and we cannot do anything to protect the rights of our fellowmen.

During such times, let us entrust everything to God. He can provide where we lack. He can see where we cannot see. And He alone can accomplish what we can never do.

To You Alone

To you alone, my God,
I surrender all.
To you, my Lord
who understands.

You know my worries,
You know my troubles,
You know when I need
a helping hand.

For there are many things
that I cannot do,
many things
that I cannot overcome.

But by your strength
and by your love I trust
To You alone I rest
my weary heart.

God’s Gentle Joy

God’s joy is a gentle and humble joy that does not break the faintest heart.

“Come to me, all you who labour and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you will find rest for your souls.” – Matthew 11, WEBBE

A Gentle Joy

There is a kind of joy
that does not offend
that does not hurt
the grieving heart.

A joy that does not boast
that does not look down
on those who are weeping
on those who are sad.

But a joy that lifts up
a joy that cares,
a joy that shares
the peace that it has.

For it is a joy that is deep
a joy that is steeped
in goodness
and in love.