Being True

“The reality of the other person lies not in what he reveals to you, but what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says, but rather to what he does not say.” – Kahlil Gibran

Honesty doesn’t mean you have to reveal everything to people. There is some part in us that can be understood only by a few, some special place that can only be shared with those whom we love the most.

It doesn’t mean we have to lie. But it means having the right expectations, not assuming that everyone else will be able to share your happiness or to understand the days when you cry.

We don’t need the whole world’s applause just to know we’re living meaningful lives. Sometimes all we need is just a few people who know who we really are and who accept us and love us no matter what we’re going through.

One who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him, and will reveal myself to him. – John 14, WEBBE

What Frightens Us

“Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”
– Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

Some people, when they are afraid, they become angry too, but then all that we can see is this anger, how they explode and seem to lose all control. What we do not see is this great fear within them, a helplessness masked by the outward rage.

Underneath it all is a vulnerability that has shielded itself so it can’t be touched. So no one may hear what it is really screaming about.

And that is why it takes much courage to love. While it is true that we must be cautious also, we must not be so frightened too much as to fail to see a heart that is only longing to be heard, to be loved.

The LORD himself… goes before you. He will be with you. He will not fail you nor forsake you. Don’t be afraid. Don’t be discouraged. – Deuteronomy 31, WEBBE

Forgiven

“Come now, and let us reason together,” says Yahweh: “Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow. Though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. – Isaiah 1:18, WEB

No matter how good we are or how holy we tried to be, there is some part of ourselves that’s burdened by past mistakes. It is that part that never quite goes away even though we try again and again to cover it or to deny that it even exists.

There is some part in ourselves that need to be forgiven, some part in our hearts that long to be freed from guilt. We need someone else to declare that our sins have indeed been blotted out, that they have been swept away. We need to hear it. We need to know that we are no longer being blamed.

Take heart, O soul. For your God is ever ready to relieve you from pain. Through a repentant heart, you obtain in Him freedom, you obtain forgiveness from all your sins. You are not blamed, you are not condemned. On the contrary, you are embraced, you are welcomed in great delight, you are loved!

It’s toughest to forgive ourselves. So it’s probably best to start with other people. It’s almost like peeling an onion. Layer by layer, forgiving others, you really do get to the point where you can forgive yourself. – Patty Duke

Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. – Peter Ustinov

Love Completely

“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.” – Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey

We either love a person or we don’t, for love cannot be measured in halves. When you love a person, you care about him, you’d do only the things for his good and not for his harm.

When we love, we allow our beloved to enter a special chamber in our hearts, and in a way, we give something of ourselves, too, and we become a part of each other. And that is why the other person’s happiness becomes also our own, another person’s sorrow finds its way also into our tears.

There is no other way to love than to love completely, with our whole hearts, for only a whole heart can continue to live and beat with love.

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow… – Ecclesiastes 4, WEBBE

Love Is a Promise You Keep

“Some people don’t understand the promises they’re making when they make them,” I said.
“Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That’s what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.”
-John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

Love is a promise. It is a promise you make when everything is good and nice and bright. It is a promise you make when you truly believe it is worth it, that though the rest of the world goes against you both, you will still fight for it because there is never anything else you’d rather look forward to.

Love is a promise. It is a promise that is tested through time and many trials. It is a promise no longer just written or declared by mouth, but testified to by sweat and blood and tears.

Because love is a promise. Love is a promise you keep even when everything seems going the wrong way, even when you could barely see the joy of it or the hope of it. You hope for hope. And you persevere even when all that you can deal with is the present moment. You protect your love in that moment, and from one moment to the next, you keep your promise to love.

Set me as a seal on your heart,
as a seal on your arm;
for love is strong as death…
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
a very flame of the LORD.
Many waters can’t quench love,
neither can floods drown it.
Song of Solomon 8, WEBBE