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07 April 2010 ~ 37 Comments

Will you still love me even if I’m not perfect?

Will you still love me even if I’m not perfect? Will you still love me even if I’m not the kind of person you wished I were? Will you still look into my eyes with warmth even if you saw my shadows? Will you still hold my hand even if you knew there will be times I’d let you down?

For though I yearn to take care of you as I should, though I desire to love you with a love that never falters and fades, my knees tremble this very moment that you hold me in your arms. [...]

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01 December 2009 ~ 0 Comments

Are You Editing Yourself Too Much?

Are you editing yourself too much?

When I attended a screenplay writing workshop, our teacher told us that there are two steps to writing. First, you need to let your creative juices flow. Second, you can edit yourself and let others edit you. When it comes to other real life tasks however, how many of us forget the first part and jump quickly towards the second one as though it’s the only step that matters? Are you editing yourself before you have ever begun creating yourself? Consequently, are you editing yourself too much?

There is another word for editing to which we are more familiar with – CRITICISM. All too often, we criticize our dreams before they have even been formed. If this is the way we build our dreams, how can we ever begin achieving them?

How many times have we caught ourselves trying to sense our desires, our passions, only to slap ourselves awake and say “Oh, you can’t possibly do that, no way!” Do we frustrate ourselves far too earlier than necessary?

One reason we may have for editing ourselves far too early in life is our FEAR that we may not be thinking of a PERFECT PLAN. We fear that we might commit a mistake and waste all our efforts in the end. We fear that we don’t deserve something as compared to other people. We use the achievemement of others as a comparison to how far we can go in life. If somebody with a similar educational background as us started to dream and then failed in his dream, then it is a gauge that we too shall fail. In order not to fail, we kill our dreams before they can even begin to take shape in our hearts.

Don’t you think you deserve better than that? Dont you think your dreams deserve better than that? Why not give them the chance to inspire you?

Right now, I am giving myself the chance to do just that. I have just resigned from work, work that I’ve held for the last twelve years and has provided for me well. I knew however that I deserved this break, this freedom to be me and to recreate myself.

Before I start out planning for my life again, strategizing, analyzing, editing, criticizing my every move, I need to relax a bit and just enjoy the fresh air. New ideas after all are not born out of criticism, they are received when the mind is most open for it.

Go ahead, together let us explore our hearts, let us revive our childhood dreams. Be spontaneous for once, empty yourself and be willing to embrace life one surprising moment at a time.

It’s true that it could be a fearful experience, but it is also a rewarding one. Every birth is preceded by excitement, that’s how life was meant to be lived.

If you find yourself editing yourself too much, here are some suggestions to get your creative juices flowing again:

1.Take a break from work, play more, do stuff you really enjoy.

2.Stop worrying for a while. Write your current worries in your notebook and promise yourself to get back to it later after a well deserved vacation.

3.Have a change of environment. You could be suffering from a suffocating work environment that crowds your mental space. It isn’t only physical space that we need but a space away from suffocating expectations and demands.

4.Buy some art materials and try to paint that new canvass with no plan in mind. Play with texture and colors and follow your heart.

5.Travel some place you’ve never been before. You’ll be amazed at the new discoveries you will experience along the way.

6.Get in touch with long lost friends or make new ones.

7.Try to spend the day doing nothing.

8.Forget about your to do list for once.

9.Get a real paper and scribble any story that comes to your mind. Don’t edit yourself and don’t judge anything you write as stupid.

10.Go to a DVD store and buy the first movie you could get your hands on to. Watch the movie no matter how boring or foolish it may seem to be. You may well find yourself laughing in the end.

Here are some recent pictures of me having fun and being grateful for the life given me:

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It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

-Theodore Roosevelt

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16 June 2009 ~ 0 Comments

How Do You Recognize True Love?

how do you recognize true love

You’d know that a love is true

when that love is able to overcome fear.

Perfect love casts away all fears.

And indeed, there is no fear in love.

True love does not run away.

True love does not lose faith.

True love does not retreat

with the slightest discomfort.

True love endures.

True love heals.

True love overcomes all darkness

and all hopelessness.

You will never doubt true love when you see it.

You will just know.

You will BELIEVE.

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13 April 2009 ~ 0 Comments

On Being Defensive

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Have you ever observed a person becoming so defensive? Sometimes that person soon loses his rational thinking or even gets paranoid. That person also often closes his ears and acts deaf, not receiving any reason you may bring before him.

Have you been defensive yourself? Wasn’t so easy being that person either was it? In truth, we become overly defensive when we become terribly afraid. We put walls around us. We plant boundaries everywhere.

All the while we think it’s the only way to protect ourselves- from pain, from evil. But what we do not know is that by doing so, we hurt ourselves the more.

By putting a wall around us, we resist not only the enemies we thought we have. We also resist receiving the love and care of others who are truly concerned for us. Most of all, we resist the flow of grace and power from our higher self, from the Absolute, from God.

When we become defensive, we become disconnected, even from our own powers.

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29 March 2009 ~ 2 Comments

The Most Important Thing

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The most important thing that you could ever give the world is yourself. That is why it is very important that you care for that person – to discover her, to tap her potentials, and to celebrate her for being the unique and wonderful person that she truly is.

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25 March 2009 ~ 2 Comments

It is not enough to love

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It isn’t enough that a man should live

For a man must love;

It isn’t enough that a man should love

For a man should love fully

and be able to bear

both the pain

and the highest joys

of his love.

He must know how to treasure that love,

how to protect it

with all its might,

against the world

that often gets jealous

of those

who have found true love.

Protect it

from the innermost chambers

of your heart

and let not your soul depart

without it.

It is your key

to eternity.

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14 February 2009 ~ 0 Comments

When I Asked for a Rose – Looking Back

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Happy Valentines Everyone!  :-)   Today, I would like to bring back one of my most loved articles titled “When I Asked for a Rose”. I hope you have a romantic day, enjoy reading:

When I Asked for a Rose

It was January 31, 2000, and Valentines Day seem so near. I was praying to God when I suddenly felt so sad. I felt so lonely. I knew that dreaded day would soon be coming when girls would soon be receiving flowers from their special someone, when they would all go about proudly carrying those flowers, certain of the sincere love of those that offered them. I haven’t got any lover though. So no flowers for me, no bouquet, not even a single red rose.

It was kinda embarassing, but I knew the Lord knew my heart and there was no point in hiding anything. I remained true to my feelings, and I asked God for something I’ve never asked before. I’ve asked Him to send me a rose, just one. I don’t know how it could possibly happen, but I prayed, like a daughter asking something from her dear father. I prayed for a single red rose. I prayed for a small expression of love, a small sign that I am loved, and that I am special as well.

It was a heartfelt prayer, though I never really thought much of it the day after. I guess it was enough for me that I uttered it, and that the Lord heard me. It was already upon God’s hands whether to grant the prayer of silly girls like me.  CLICK here to Continue

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