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Dear Joyce… He Needs Space

Dear Joyce,

I am in a relationaship for 2 years and 3 months please pray for us to move on in our relationship, we just separate ways, I do love this man so much that im ready to leave him just for him to be happy , it hurts but accoding to him he needs space…i want him to be happy….im struglling right now the sadness that I have… please help us and pray for us to know the future if we still be together.

From Lea

RESPONSE FROM JOYCE

Dear Lea,

I pray for you now. It isn’t easy letting go of someone we love, but sometimes, love requires the ultimate sacrifice for the good of our loved ones. Lea, if God has destined you both to be together, God will make a way. For now, I admire you for being willing to take a step back and give him the space that he needs.

With Love,
JOYCE

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Dear Joyce… An Arranged Marriage

Hi Joyce,

Im engaged and my engagement was totally arranged as it happens in our culture as I never knew about my fiancee,but after my engagement my mom n dad suggested that I talk to my fiancee to have a better understanding.joyce I came to know my fiancee isnt a very responsive or expressive guy at all totally opposite of me whos very expressive in praise or affection.Being raised in a family where i always had my freedom to do what I want now I feel so misunderstood by my fiancee as hes only concerned about his work and time.He is very rigid in his rules as tells me ill never call before seven days n all and if I tell him to call before that he acts very seriously and twice even used harsh words with me which really HURT me badly.Joyce Im not used to listening to such tone of language if someone tries to boss me around and tolerate such coldness on someones part.

As a result I ve become so depressed and serious when I use to be very outgoing and happy person.I told my problem to my mom but she just tells me not to worry as a result I feel misunderstood?I thought my life partner would be expressive to me for my beauty and care for me not a cold heartless guy who only cares for his work and pride.I cant be happy like this as Ive never experienced such a person even on my birthday he didnt give me any present and when my brothers asked me what he gave me I felt like crying infront of them.plzz tell me joyce what can I do how can I deal with this kind of person and feel contented with myself again.thanks

From Noora

RESPONSE FROM JOYCE

Hello, Noora!

I’d like to introduce myself again. I’m Joyce!

I came from a Christian background, I’ve lived in Australia and in the Philippines where we are usually free to choose the one we will marry. So forgive me if I cannot always understand the depths of the pressure you feel in trying to follow your culture. It must be difficult, because we human beings usually want to conform to what the society around us dictates. Aside from that, we want to meet the expectations of important people in our lives, especially our family. I know you don’t want to disappoint anybody. But in the process, it seems you are also disappointing yourself, and you feel you’re no longer happy with your situation and with who you are.

There was once a prayer that gave me enlightenment and it says:

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Dear Joyce… I Don’t Feel Loved

I’m a 31 year old single mum of a 7 year old boy, my son and I quote Jer 29:11 over our life and we believe there’s a brighter day for us coming. I moved citys three times now, never settled, within this time friends and families have let us down. I turn to shut people off because I don’t feel loved or cared for by anyone. I believe in god and I know he is my shelter, strenght, strong tower…I want to be with him more for the rest of my life because he’s the one that cares and loves me more. Right now am looking for a guy who will love me and my son and take care of us. Also we are praying for this house on campus of this Adventist University am currently working with. Please help stand in pray with both of us.
thanks

From Rose Borre

RESPONSE FROM JOYCE

Dear Rose,

Thank you for writing to us and sharing your prayer concerns. I believe God is with you now, guiding you, being the concerned Father of your 7 year old son. God is indeed the strong and mighty tower we can depend upon even if the rest of the world turns its back on us. I do believe however that God can send us real life angels,