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When Your Love Is Rejected

woman alone heartbreakThere are second lead characters in movies and television dramas that seem to offer more love than the the main lead but are often ignored or unappreciated. Even if their love is recognized, their love is not accepted in the end.

The audience however knows this doesn’t mean they’re less deserving of love. The sad fate of not being loved back doesn’t necessarily mean one is not worthy or that one is not capable of love.

Being rejected by one person doesn’t mean someone is better. It doesn’t mean you are not beautiful or dependable or charming.

But why is it that in real life, that’s just how we feel? We feel ugly and broken and worthless. We feel that when we’re rejected, it’s because something’s wrong with us.

Let us try to see things from another perspective. Being rejected is hard and painful. But let us not jump into the wrong conclusions because of it. Let us not lose our self-esteem.

One’s unrequited love is not wasted because it has enriched the heart of the one who loves. It has made him or her more beautiful and one will carry the fragrance of this love wherever that one may go.

Jocelyn Soriano is the author of the book “Mend My Broken Heart”. Get it from Amazon today—click here.

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When Taking Care of Yourself Is Taking Care of Those Whom You Love

There is a pitfall in being a loving person. When we picture a loving person, we often picture someone who is selfless and self-sacrificing, someone who doesn’t care about what happens to him or to her if it means being able to love other people. We picture a person who has no worries being harmed for as long as one’s beloved is happy.

While it is important not to forget that love is unselfish, we should also remember that love does not mean neglecting to take care of oneself. Love is not a cruel thing that enslaves us and punishes us. Love is not something that is unconcerned with what we’d become.

While love sees and protects others, it also defends itself. Love knows that in order to take care of one’s beloved, one also has to protect oneself. It isn’t selfish to desire to be strong so you could be of service to those you love. It isn’t selfish to think about the value of your life as you also think about the good of your loved ones.

You are not alone in this world. As much as you care for others, there are also people who care about you. As much as you want to protect your loved ones, the ones you love also feel the need to take care of you.

How could your loved ones be happy if they see something bad happening to you? Love is not only about giving but also about receiving with a humble and a grateful heart. Love is taking into consideration the feelings of those who care about your good.

“whatever you do
be gentle with yourself.
you don’t just live
in this world
or your home
or your skin.
you also live
in someone’s eyes.”
? Sanober Khan

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Why Letting Go Is One of the Most Catastrophic Things That Could Happen to You

Some people talk about letting go as though it were a very easy thing to do.

People talk as though letting go is only about letting the bad things go and moving happily on from there. But the truth is that when you let go, you must also accept losing all the good things you’ve been holding on to.

To let go, you must separate yourself from something that has been a very important part of you.

 Many times, it means a catastrophic shattering of your connection to almost everything it has touched in your life.

When you let go, you suffer a kind of fall that makes you not only sad but very much afraid. It’s a feeling of being lost, of suffocating in darkness, of being so empty you feel like you don’t know yourself anymore.

And that is why it’s called a broken heart.

Because something has broken within you, in the very core of who you are. In a way, you let go of yourself. You risk losing who you’ve been so you can find yourself again. You risk being shattered so you can be healed, so you can be whole again.

Not in the way you were before, but into another kind of person, a new person. A person with scars and tears, and yes, a person with new-found strength and wisdom, too.

As you let go of everything, good and bad, you become open to starting anew. You open yourself into receiving what you’ve always needed and you grow.

Gradually, you pick up the new pieces of your life as you gain a new heart and a new pair of eyes. Eyes that can finally see all the things you failed to see. Eyes that can dream again and hope again. It may not be easy, but you begin and you trust that if you can endure being broken, you’d eventually find your way to peace.

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Romantic Love Versus True Love

When people speak about love, they often speak about romantic love. They speak as though it’s the only love there is.

People write poems about this type of love. People watch movies showing how powerful this love can be.

But what we often fail to see is that romantic love is not everything. It could be the beginning, but it is certainly not the end.

When we stay in this type of love, we remain trapped in a kind of love that depends solely upon our emotions.

Are we surprised then if this is that love that often breaks our hearts in two?

Here’s a list of things that differentiate romantic love from true love:

Romantic love may fade, true love stays.
Romantic love may become selfish, true love is selfless.
Romantic love falls often into illusion, true love is brave enough to stand with the truth.
Romantic love can deceive you, true love bears a sincere and open heart.
Romantic love can imprison you, true love sets you free.
Romantic love can make you blind, true love allows you to see.
Romantic love can prey on your weakness, true love makes you strong.
Romantic love may talk, true love listens.
Romantic love may take, true love gives away.
Romantic love may send you worries, true love gives you peace.
Romantic love can break your heart, true love heals and makes you whole.
Romantic love may offer only temporary happiness, true love gives you lasting joy.

What else could be greater than romantic love? True love.

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Loving Yourself A Bit More

Here is a special edition of this blog’s best posts on loving yourself more! 😉

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LOVING YOURSELF THROUGH GOD’S EYES

In God’s eyes, there is no judgment, there is only acceptance. In God’s eyes, there is no pain too hard to bear nor weaknesses too weak to be overcome by His insurmountable strength.

God can embrace us wholeheartedly, opening us up yet sustaining us and healing us at the same time. God sees all our potentials. God sees our light when all that we can see are our shadows.

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NEVER LET YOURSELF DOWN

Never let yourself down. Take heart, for no matter how awful the accusations against you are, you are still a child of God.

This is the time when your love for yourself will be tested. Whether you will believe what others say about you, or whether you will stand your ground because you know yourself best.

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DIET AND LOVING YOURSELF

Today I’ve noticed how our diets are greatly related to our relationship with ourselves.

For instance, imagine for a moment being in charge of the food of your loved ones. Will you be happy if your loved ones almost starve themselves to death and deprive themselves of food that they enjoy? On the other hand, would you rather that they overeat and eat foods that will make them obese and kill them later on due to high blood pressure or diabetes? Of course not!

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SHOULD I FEEL GUILTY LOVING MYSELF?

It’s only the second day of my challenge to love myself more and I’m already feeling a bit guilty.

I’ve made quite a few purchases, expenses spent to pamper myself. In the evening, I’ve also continued applying a moisturizing lotion to my face. I wasn’t used to doing that before.

Now back to the “guilty” part. I wonder if we also feel guilty when we are being pampered or showered with gifts from our loved ones. Should we feel guilty?

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SEPARATING OUR MISTAKES FROM OUR SELF-IMAGE

When we make blunders, we feel we’re failures. When we have broken relationships, we feel we are broken too and worthless.

However, if we truly desire to improve our relationship with ourselves, we must learn to practice acknowledging our errors without eroding our overall belief in our worth.

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WHAT DO I LOVE ABOUT ME?

During this time of reflection, I’ve learned that I not only lacked love for myself. I’ve learned a shocking truth – that I’ve hated myself all these years. That was the reason I’ve found it easier to love other people. Because they were not as unlovable as me. But if I were to start out as a person apart from my current self, how do I become a friend to this person? What are the things I would appreciate in her? What do I love about me?

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