Category: relationships

SIMPLE STRESS RELIEVERS

I felt stressed since yesterday. Ideas for my website and for topics of articles I could write about seemed to race in my mind and couldn’t stop them. There were two things though, that I did today that helped me relieve that stress.

1.  SING YOUR HEART OUT BABY!

It was good that my friend invited me after office hours to sing at a nearby Videoke bar. Being able to sing out loud and breathe really deeply, not to mention being a bit “senti” (sentimental), a lot of that stress have really been brushed off. Definitely recommended as a good stress reliever.

2.  PLAY LIKE CRAZY

Arriving at home, I saw my sister playing an interesting computer game called “Everest”. It’s a kind of game where you have to look for many objects amidst a bunch of mess. Nice ha! What happened was that I helped at first, glad to identify some hidden objects in that mess. Then I got to the point when I got hooked and so engrossed myself that I forgot all about my stress!

Being engrossed. PLAYING. Such things help relieve our stress. Such things help us LOVE OURSELVES MORE.

WHAT DO I LOVE ABOUT ME

When I first started my 21 days of loving myself, I thought it would be easy. But as the days went on, the more I realized how much reprogramming has to be made. It took years building my current relationship with myself, and it will not easily be rebuilt in a matter of days. It can start from here though, growth has to start somewhere, and it is good to start right and strong.

During this time of reflection, I’ve learned that I not only lacked love for myself. I’ve learned a shocking truth – that I’ve hated myself all these years. That was the reason I’ve found it easier to love other people. Because they were not as unlovable as me. But if I were to start out as a person apart from my current self, how do I become a friend to this person? What are the things I would appreciate in her? What do I love about me?

Without boasting or being affected by false humility I listed down the following things:

1.Her love for coffee. Coffee is not a mere upper, but a passion to her. She even put up a coffee shop, got net loss from the business and yet carries with her only good memories of her passion. Coffee is a symbol of home for her, of friendship, of good yet practical ideas shared by people who care for each other. I’d love her love for coffee.

2.Her being childlike. Up to now, she still enjoys toys and enjoys receiving and unwrapping gifts. It wouldn’t take much to make her happy. Yet few people realize this, how easy it would have been to put a big smile on her face.

3.Her love for books. Books give her a tremendous amount of understanding and exposure to things and places she has never been to in the physical plane. Being like a sponge however, she is able to absorb all her experiences reading as though it were real.

4.Her simplicity. Given the chance, she wouldn’t wear anything but a white shirt and a pair of jeans. She doesn’t like uniforms. She isn’t even fond of gowns, though she could definitely carry one when the occasion calls for it. She’s a homey person, you wouldn’t feel out of place in her presence.

5.Her empathy. It may not look it, but she is crying with you within in your hour of sadness. She can reach your darkest darkness, would listen and would try her very best to get you both out of that darkness.

6.Her fiery spirit. Sometimes she has quite a temper that would just burst if she feel she or someone else she loves is aggrieved.

7.Her love for gadgets. Gadgets and tools are definitely her thing. She can tinker on things here and there and come up with the next great invention to make life easier for all of us.

8.Her thoughtfulness. If you think everybody else has forgotten you, think again because she remembers. She will greet you on your birthday and give you a surprise gift. She would make you feel important, that you belong. You are being thought of, and that is very important these days when people are just too busy to care.