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When I Asked for a Rose – Looking Back

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Happy Valentines Everyone!  🙂  Today, I would like to bring back one of my most loved articles titled “When I Asked for a Rose”. I hope you have a romantic day, enjoy reading:

When I Asked for a Rose

It was January 31, 2000, and Valentines Day seem so near. I was praying to God when I suddenly felt so sad. I felt so lonely. I knew that dreaded day would soon be coming when girls would soon be receiving flowers from their special someone, when they would all go about proudly carrying those flowers, certain of the sincere love of those that offered them. I haven’t got any lover though. So no flowers for me, no bouquet, not even a single red rose.

It was kinda embarassing, but I knew the Lord knew my heart and there was no point in hiding anything. I remained true to my feelings, and I asked God for something I’ve never asked before. I’ve asked Him to send me a rose, just one. I don’t know how it could possibly happen, but I prayed, like a daughter asking something from her dear father. I prayed for a single red rose. I prayed for a small expression of love, a small sign that I am loved, and that I am special as well.

It was a heartfelt prayer, though I never really thought much of it the day after. I guess it was enough for me that I uttered it, and that the Lord heard me. It was already upon God’s hands whether to grant the prayer of silly girls like me.  CLICK here to Continue

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Is Your Relationship Based on a Checklist?

is your relationship based on a checklist

There are many relationships today founded only upon a checklist.  Each partner qualifies like an applicant qualifying for a job interview.

He is witty.  Check.

She is kind.  Check.

He is rich enough.  Check.

She is sexy enough.  Check.

But what happens when you mistakenly check qualities you should have crossed out?  What if both partners fraudulently misrepresented themselves?  Or what happens when people change?

Ooops!  The prince had just become a frog.

Ooops!  The princess had just become a witch.

Where is your relationship founded? Is it based on a mere checklist  you could easily crumple and tear apart?

Choose a good foundation.

Choose LOVE.

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Relationships are Fragile

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Relationships are fragile.  The reason why we often hurt more the ones who love us most is because we do not realize this.

We take for granted the people who are always there for us and we care not to be as careful with their feelings as we are with people we hardly know.

A careless word.  A negligent irrespectful act.  We often think we can get away with anything when we are with the people who love us.

While it is true that they will extend to us their utmost understanding, it is also true that they are but human beings after all.

They get hurt.  And they get hurt the most by the people they love the most.

Relationships are fragile.  It is far easier to protect it and to take care of it rather than to mend it when it is already broken into a million shattered parts.

Must we spend our precious time trying to gather the broken pieces?  Or should we rather spend our moments checking our tongues, saying words of encouragement, holding the hands of the people who truly matter to us?

Relationships are fragile.  They are gifts to be cherrished and protected and taken care of as much as we take care of our own hearts.

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What is the Meaning of Life?

What is the meaning of life?

What is the meaning of life? The meaning of life is simple – it is love. There is no other. If there are other things we seek or need or strive for, it is only because of love. How we can understand it and grasp it with our finite minds. How we can be worthy of it, or how we can realize that we have been loved in times when we are most undeserving of it.

Wisdom, truth, power. They do not possess meaning in themselves. They are but avenues with which to be more acquainted with love, to be more immersed in love so we can discover who we really are and so that we may not lose what we have struggled so hard to find.

God is love. Family is love. Work is love. Passion, excellence, immortality, freedom, all these are but attributes of love.

The meaning of life is in this simple word. And we just couldn’t believe it. So we often take the detour instead of pursuing the straight path.

Whatever road you are in right now, do not be fooled. There is only one desire and one destiny. And you must find it if you truly desire to find what is the meaning of life.

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Allowing Love…

As I proceed with my 21 days of consciously improving my relationship to myself, of loving myself so I could later on love others more, I became aware of one reason that causes many of our heartaches.

I’ve realized that we are not allowing love in our lives, and for that reason, we are so often lacking in love.  This is however not a conscious choice, but a subconscious response that we do, and unaware of what we do, we are in truth blocking the inward flow of love into our lives.  How so?

By virtue of expectations. By experience or lessons taught us by other people, we have developed certain expectations on how we should be loved.  And if these expectations are not met, we immediately conclude that we are not loved.

But the truth is that we may be loved.  Maybe not in ways we wanted to.  Not in ways we’ve learned or were taught us, but in ways that person knew best how to love.

The same is true as regards allowing God’s love into our lives.  We have certain expectations.  A lot of expectations!  God should do this.  God should be that.  He is All-Powerful and All-Knowing isn’t He?  So He should do this if He loves me.

But what if He doesn’t do exactly what we want Him to do?  Does it mean He doesn’t love us?  But how can we measure His love in the first place?  Are we All-Knowing as He is?

Because of our expectations, we block so much love that should have flowed into our lives.  If we desire to love ourselves more, let us be kinder to ourselves.  Let us allow more love to flow in our hearts.

And if a person expresses love differently, say he is able to show more in deeds than in words, let us extend our understanding and our appreciation.  We are loved! And that’s what really counts  🙂