Are you editing yourself too much?
When I attended a screenplay writing workshop, our teacher told us that there are two steps to writing. First, you need to let your creative juices flow. Second, you can edit yourself and let others edit you. When it comes to other real life tasks however, how many of us forget the first part and jump quickly towards the second one as though it’s the only step that matters? Are you editing yourself before you have ever begun creating yourself? Consequently, are you editing yourself too much?
There is another word for editing to which we are more familiar with – CRITICISM. All too often, we criticize our dreams before they have even been formed. If this is the way we build our dreams, how can we ever begin achieving them?
How many times have we caught ourselves trying to sense our desires, our passions, only to slap ourselves awake and say “Oh, you can’t possibly do that, no way!” Do we frustrate ourselves far too earlier than necessary?
One reason we may have for editing ourselves far too early in life is our FEAR that we may not be thinking of a PERFECT PLAN. We fear that we might commit a mistake and waste all our efforts in the end. We fear that we don’t deserve something as compared to other people. We use the achievemement of others as a comparison to how far we can go in life. If somebody with a similar educational background as us started to dream and then failed in his dream, then it is a gauge that we too shall fail. In order not to fail, we kill our dreams before they can even begin to take shape in our hearts.
Don’t you think you deserve better than that? Dont you think your dreams deserve better than that? Why not give them the chance to inspire you?
Right now, I am giving myself the chance to do just that. I have just resigned from work, work that I’ve held for the last twelve years and has provided for me well. I knew however that I deserved this break, this freedom to be me and to recreate myself.
Before I start out planning for my life again, strategizing, analyzing, editing, criticizing my every move, I need to relax a bit and just enjoy the fresh air. New ideas after all are not born out of criticism, they are received when the mind is most open for it.
Go ahead, together let us explore our hearts, let us revive our childhood dreams. Be spontaneous for once, empty yourself and be willing to embrace life one surprising moment at a time.
It’s true that it could be a fearful experience, but it is also a rewarding one. Every birth is preceded by excitement, that’s how life was meant to be lived.
If you find yourself editing yourself too much, here are some suggestions to get your creative juices flowing again:
1.Take a break from work, play more, do stuff you really enjoy.
2.Stop worrying for a while. Write your current worries in your notebook and promise yourself to get back to it later after a well deserved vacation.
3.Have a change of environment. You could be suffering from a suffocating work environment that crowds your mental space. It isn’t only physical space that we need but a space away from suffocating expectations and demands.
4.Buy some art materials and try to paint that new canvass with no plan in mind. Play with texture and colors and follow your heart.
5.Travel some place you’ve never been before. You’ll be amazed at the new discoveries you will experience along the way.
6.Get in touch with long lost friends or make new ones.
7.Try to spend the day doing nothing.
8.Forget about your to do list for once.
9.Get a real paper and scribble any story that comes to your mind. Don’t edit yourself and don’t judge anything you write as stupid.
10.Go to a DVD store and buy the first movie you could get your hands on to. Watch the movie no matter how boring or foolish it may seem to be. You may well find yourself laughing in the end.
Here are some recent pictures of me having fun and being grateful for the life given me:
It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
-Theodore Roosevelt












Hi Joyce,
Arswino @ Inspirational Quotes´s last blog ..101 Tips to Feel Great 
It is an inspiring and motivating article indeed,
and I love 10 tips you shared.
Thank you so much.
@Inspirational Quotes - Thanks Ino! Nice to hear from you, I hope you’re doing well
Great pictures! Also, great topic — I definitely think I edit myself in many regards. I’ll have a GREAT thought in the morning sometimes when I’m all geared up, feeling the love, etc. Then by mid-afternoon I think, “Eh, why bother with that thought from earlier? I’ll skip it. The world will still revolve.” I love reading about people who grab life by the proverbial bull horns and just ride it out. I want to learn how to do that! It’s not totally in my DNA, but if I could edit less and play/live MORE, I wonder how much more fun I’d have? (My guess is lots.)
Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..7 Steps for Climbing the Staircase to Joy
Hi Joyce .. I know I’d like to rewrite or rearrange my posts a bit - but as I get such lovely comments I just keep going and don’t sweat the small stuff.
As I move on and have a bit more time I’ll be able to draft my posts out first using - yes I know !! good old paper and pencil .. then just write. I’d love to just write a post - but I put quite a bit of detail in (which is near enough right) of the things I’d like to know and therefore don’t want anyone else feeling they need to know more!
Sometimes I get swamped with information that I want to put over and a few of my posts I think I should have cut parts out - then these wonderful compliments come in .. I’m very lucky and really appreciate that I have found the right chord for my blog.
I do very quickly edit and then post straight away - I gather one should let the post sit to be reviewed .. perhaps I’ll get that way, when I need to get to the publishing element side of things (hard copy or ebook etc)
PS: editing comments .. sometimes I’ve started a comment and thought “no” that’s not fair or right, and not the right thought process .. so have stopped and started again .. that’s essential - think before you post your comment. Be positive with and kind to your blogger - give them the benefit of the doubt.
All the best - Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspirational Stories
Hilary´s last blog ..What Christmas memory comes back to you at the beginning of December?
Great article. Life is just so much easier when we are awareness rather than when we are identified with particular points of view. You’re right, it always comes down to fear, and it’s a strange thing to find out that holding on to fear is a choice we make.
Thanks for the insights!
k
Kaushik | beyond-karma.com´s last blog ..Saying Aloha to Fear
@Kaushik - You’re very much welcome! I look forward to reading your blog.
@Hilary - There is something unique about your blog posts, it’s like having a chitchat with a friend at home and learning lots of things at the same time
You are indeed kind to your bloggers and I know you have lots of friends in the blogosphere who love you.
@Megan - Thanks, Megan. Definitely, you’ll have lots and lots of fun! I might disagree with you about the DNA though, I think it’s in everybody’s DNA to enjoy and live more, that’s how God is, that’s how God made us to be
Otherwise, why would God make man if he or she wouldn’t be good company?
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