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What Happens When You Don’t Turn the Other Cheek?

I have often been challenged whenever I read the Bible verse about turning the other cheek.  Somehow, I can sense the wisdom in it, and at the same time, authentic and unselfish love.  However, there is also a part of me that can’t help but protest at the seeming injustice of it all.  Why let bad people do as they please?  Can’t we even fight back?

My post today is about a reflection about my contradictory feelings and thoughts about it and how only God’s infinite love and wisdom can give us the answer we’re looking for.

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As Invisible and as Life-Giving as the Wind

Being invisible

I never liked being invisible. It could appear to be cool in the movies when someone has a special power like that. You could sneak in and listen to other people’s conversations. You could even escape from a powerful villain. But in real life, it doesn’t feel that way. In real life, to feel invisible is to feel worthless.

When you’re a quiet type of person like me, you can often feel invisible. You find yourself listening while others do the talking most of the time. You go to parties and you rarely grab the attention of someone you like.

But just because you rarely talk doesn’t mean you’re no longer there. Even an invisible person can be a good friend. Even an invisible person can do something worthwhile.

The song

As I listened to Bette Midler’s version of the song “Wind Beneath My Wings” while watching the movie Beaches this past week, I felt some sort of redemption. The song was somehow able to give a tribute to the “invisible people”, those who have often been overlooked, forgotten and cast aside. Finally, a piece about the quiet ones, the steady ones, the gentle ones.

It’s the kind of song that would remind you of a friend who has always been there for you. That friend who cheers you on when you’re down, celebrates your triumphs without giving in to envy, and lets you shine as she slips silently in the background.

Not everyone can shine like the sun, but some can be like little stars brightening the evening sky. Not everyone can be great leaders, but some can be good followers, giving you their unfailing loyalty and support.

Our silent heroes

I’m reminded of the many silent heroes of this world. Ordinary people whose names barely make it to the headlines. People who don’t have a million or so followers on social media.

We often talk about one famous person as though the future of the world depended upon him or her alone, but we rarely talk about others whose lives are equally important. We hardly notice them, but without them, how could the world ever survive?

Even in our personal lives, we have invisible heroes. A grandmother who cares lovingly for your child and takes care of him whenever you need to go out of town. An aunt who makes you smile whenever you feel the world has let you down. A stranger who helps you out without expecting anything in return.

Someone who sees

The song has brought me to that moment when someone finally turns around, takes me by the hand and tells me just how much he has appreciated me. To be seen, to be valued, to be loved – I can find no more words to describe how it feels.

I guess we all deserve that moment, that moment when we realize that someone has been watching us all along, and for that person, we are not invisible.

In the end

It’s no wonder that the song “Wind Beneath My Wings” has been among the most played songs at funerals according to a UK poll. Somehow, at the end of one’s life, we recognize a person for all that he has ever done. We remember the moments we have often overlooked. And maybe, for the first time, the person shines in such a way that he would never be forgotten, no longer hidden from our hearts and our minds.

How many people in your life appear to be invisible to you today? For many of us, they seem like the wind. The wind blows here and there, and we breathe it and it gives us life, and though we cannot see them, we can feel them, and it is only through them that we can fly!

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From Small Hatred Comes Great Darkness

Strive to let no hatred, no matter how small, linger upon your heart because it is from such small hatred that great darkness often grows.

“A small seed of anger can grow into a great tree of hatred that can block God’s light and cast you into darkness.” – Our Lady of Kibeho

“I knew that my heart and mind would always be tempted to feel anger–to find blame and hate. But I resolved that when the negative feelings came upon me, I wouldn’t wait for them to grow or fester. I would always turn immediately to the Source of all true power: I would turn to God and let His love and forgiveness protect and save me.” – Immaculée Ilibagiza, Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust

What is it about hatred that infects the heart and plunges it in darkness? We have all been there, clinging to our hatred because we feel our anger is righteous, that we are justified in hating another person. We think we can judge as though we know everything like God. Yet we are not God. And we do not have His love and His mercy. So our anger poisons us, makes us self-righteous, and makes us lose sight of the image of God in our neighbors as well as in ourselves. And we carry a burden we were never meant to bear.

“When hearts previously ruled by love become ruled by hate, when lips previously gentle suddenly become harsh, and when a people previously united in compassion suddenly becomes divided, shouting at each other, looking down upon one another, being filled with pride instead of humility, you know something is wrong. You know that far beyond all the superficial arguments being said, there is a poison brewing, spreading in the hearts and minds of the people. Cling bravely to the Truth, and hold on to the Light. Be not deceived, remember that evil often wears a mask.”

He who says he is in the light and hates his brother is in the darkness even until now. He who loves his brother remains in the light, and there is no occasion for stumbling in him. But he who hates his brother is in the darkness, and walks in the darkness, and doesn’t know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes… He who doesn’t love his brother remains in death. Whoever hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life remaining in him. – 1 John 2,3 (WEBBE)

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Why We Shouldn’t Love Less Than One Hundred Percent!

“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves.” — Jane

What People Are Saying

I have often heard people say that when we love, we should avoid giving the relationship one hundred percent of our hearts, that we should always try to reserve a certain percentage for ourselves.

Somehow, this is based on the idea that we can love other people better if we learn to love ourselves first. But is the connection to this idea true? Can we only love ourselves by holding back a certain percentage of our love?

Love is Like a Pizza?

This leads me to the thought that love is something that’s like a pizza pie. Once we give away half, all that we retain is the other half. So better to not give everything away then?

What Love Is

I think love is different. Love is not diminished like that. I believe that we can love ourselves a hundred percent and also love other people without ever lessening that love!

Our problem is not in dividing our love. Our problem is not knowing how to love one hundred percent!

Whenever we fail to give attention to our needs, we are not loving ourselves in full. Whenever we set aside our need for growth, we love ourselves less than we should.

In the same way, whenever we fail to recognize the need of our family or friends, we fail to give them the kind of love they need. We are not giving them a hundred percent of our love.

Love and Abundance

Love is not a thing that ought to be scarce. Love is abundance and fullness! Love is something that should multiply the more that we give it away.

Our problem is not in trying to save a portion of love. Our problem is being able to keep up to the full measure of what love really is!

Whenever we think that love can be given in halves, we lose the true meaning of it, we lose its very essence. For how could we love only with half of our hearts? Or how could we love only with half of our thoughts?

Love and Faithfulness

When we commit to someone, we do not promise to remain faithful for only half of the time. We promise faithfulness one hundred percent of the time! And if we ever forget that promise for even a single hour of betrayal, can we truly say that we have not forgotten love then?

We can never love with only half of our hearts. This is true whether we speak about loving ourselves or loving other people.

Love would always demand one hundred percent because it would always give its all. Love is faithful, love is true, and that shouldn’t only be true half of the time.

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A Certain Lightness

There’s a certain relief in emptying oneself, even of one’s dreams. There’s a certain lightness. A certain hope. A new beginning filled with wondrous possibilities. Because one has let go, one is now free. Because one is empty, one can now receive in full. New things abound. The heart is young again. New adventures and new doors open wide to make way for new happiness.