Grief can be so overwhelming that we often it hard to understand what it really means. How would our lives be changed when we’re grieving? Could we ever go back to the time before our loved one’s death? Grief quotes can sometimes help us connect with other people who went through the process of grieving and losing the ones they loved the most. Through quotes and other excerpts, we somehow feel that we’re not alone. In an indirect way, they also give us hope.
Below are some of the quotes that can give you comfort when you are coping with grief. May you find in them some words of wisdom and consolation while dealing with the hard times. And may you face each day with courage knowing that for every day that you live, you carry your loved ones also within your heart.
Grief Quotes for sharing:
“What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” — Helen Keller
“In times of grief and sorrow I will hold you and rock you and take your grief and make it my own. When you cry I cry and when you hurt I hurt. And together we will try to hold back the floods to tears and despair and make it through the potholed street of life”
– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.”
– E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.” – Washington Irving
“Given a choice between grief and nothing, I’d choose grief.” – William Faulkner
“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.”
– José N. Harris, MI VIDA: A Story of Faith, Hope and Love
“They say time heals all wounds, but that presumes the source of the grief is finite”
– Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Prince
“I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.”
– J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King
“Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”
– John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
“The darker the night, the brighter the stars,
The deeper the grief, the closer is God!”
– Apollon Maykov
“Her absence is like the sky, spread over everything.”
– C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”
– Anne Lamott
Of Waves and Butterflies: Poems on Grief
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“We bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world–the company of those who have known suffering.” – Helen Keller
“Grief is a most peculiar thing; we’re so helpless in the face of it. It’s like a window that will simply open of its own accord. The room grows cold, and we can do nothing but shiver. But it opens a little less each time, and a little less; and one day we wonder what has become of it.” – Arthur Golden
“I saw the world in black and white instead of the vibrant colours and shades I knew existed.” – Katie McGarry, Pushing the Limits
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.”
– C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”
– Leo Tolstoy
“Without you in my arms, I feel an emptiness in my soul. I find myself searching the crowds for your face – I know it’s an impossibility, but I cannot help myself.”
– Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle
“The worst type of crying wasn’t the kind everyone could see–the wailing on street corners, the tearing at clothes. No, the worst kind happened when your soul wept and no matter what you did, there was no way to comfort it. A section withered and became a scar on the part of your soul that survived. For people like me and Echo, our souls contained more scar tissue than life.”
– Katie McGarry, Pushing the Limits
“Grief changes shape, but it never ends.” – Keanu Reeves
“Grief knits two hearts in closer bonds than happiness ever can; and common sufferings are far stronger links than common joys.” – Alphonse de Lamartine
“Come back. Even as a shadow, even as a dream.” – Euripides
“We were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, ‘Blessed are they that mourn,’ and I accept it. I’ve got nothing that I hadn’t bargained for. Of course it is different when the thing happens to oneself, not to others, and in reality, not imagination.”
– C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
“There are moments when I wish I could roll back the clock and take all the sadness away, but I have the feeling that if I did, the joy would be gone as well.”
– Nicholas Sparks, A Walk to Remember
Of Waves and Butterflies: Poems on Grief
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More Grief Quotes
“When someone you love dies, and you’re not expecting it, you don’t lose her all at once; you lose her in pieces over a long time—the way the mail stops coming, and her scent fades from the pillows and even from the clothes in her closet and drawers. Gradually, you accumulate the parts of her that are gone. Just when the day comes—when there’s a particular missing part that overwhelms you with the feeling that she’s gone, forever—there comes another day, and another specifically missing part.”
– John Irving, A Prayer for Owen Meany
“It’s so curious: one can resist tears and ‘behave’ very well in the hardest hours of grief. But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer… and everything collapses. ”
– Colette
“grief is a house where no one can protect you
where the younger sister
will grow older than the older one
where the doors
no longer let you in
or out”
– Jandy Nelson, The Sky Is Everywhere
“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” – Kahlil Gibran
“Your memory feels like home to me. So whenever my mind wanders, it always finds it’s way back to you.” – Ranata Suzuki
“The song is ended but the melody lingers on.” – Irving Berlin
“Words are like nets – we hope they’ll cover what we mean, but we know they can’t possibly hold that much joy, or grief, or wonder.” – Jodi Picoult
“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.”
– Kevin Arnold
“It is useless for me to describe to you how terrible Violet, Klaus, and even Sunny felt in the time that followed. If you have ever lost someone very important to you, then you already know how it feels, and if you haven’t, you cannot possibly imagine it.”
– Lemony Snicket, The Bad Beginning
“Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.” – Earl Grollman
“Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.”- Eskimo Proverb
“Deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope” – Elizabeth Gilbert (Grief Quote from Eat, Pray, Love)
“My sister will die over and over again for the rest of my life. Grief is forever. It doesn’t go away; it becomes a part of you, step for step, breath for breath. I will never stop grieving Bailey because I will never stop loving her. That’s just how it is. Grief and love are conjoined, you don’t get one without the other. All I can do is love her, and love the world, emulate her by living with daring and spirit and joy.”
– Jandy Nelson, The Sky Is Everywhere
“Grief can destroy you –or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each day, and didn’t allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it’s over and you’re alone, you begin to see that it wasn’t just a movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it.”
– Dean Koontz, Odd Hours
Sometimes, these grief quotes speak aloud what we can only cry in silence.
“Absence is a house so vast that inside you will pass through its walls and hang pictures on the air.” – Pablo Neruda
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.”
– William Shakespeare, Macbeth
“Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place.”
– Sarah Dessen, The Truth About Forever
“And when your sorrow is comforted (time soothes all sorrows) you will be content that you have known me. You will always be my friend. You will want to laugh with me. And you will sometimes open your window, so, for that pleasure . . . And your friends will be properly astonished to see you laughing as you look up at the sky! Then you will say to them, ‘Yes, the stars always make me laugh!’ And they will think you are crazy. It will be a very shabby trick that I shall have played on you…”
– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, (Grief Quote from The Little Prince)
Of Waves and Butterflies: Poems on Grief
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“The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can’t get off your knees for a long time, you’re driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness, to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life.”
– Dean Koontz, Odd Hours
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
“You can’t truly heal from a loss until you allow yourself to really feel the loss.” – Mandy Hale
“grief is a house
where the chairs
have forgotten how to hold us
the mirrors how to reflect us
the walls how to contain us
grief is a house that disappears
each time someone knocks at the door
or rings the bell
a house that blows into the air
at the slightest gust
that buries itself deep in the ground
while everyone is sleeping”
– Jandy Nelson, The Sky Is Everywhere
“In the garden of memory, in the palace of dreams … that is where you and I shall meet.” – Lewis Carroll
“Nothing that grieves us can be called little: by the eternal laws of proportion a child’s loss of a doll and a king’s loss of a crown are events of the same size.” – Mark Twain
“There are three needs of the griever: To find the words for the loss, to say the words aloud and to know that the words have been heard.” – Victoria Alexander
What grief quotes can you relate to the most?
“Never. We never lose our loved ones. They accompany us; they don’t disappear from our lives. We are merely in different rooms.” – Paulo Coelho
“When it is darkest, we can see the stars.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“There is no grief like the grief that does not speak.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” – Thomas Campbell
“Fire tests gold, suffering tests brave men.” – Seneca
“Grief is a curious thing, when it happens unexpectedly. It is a band-aid being ripped away, taking the top layer off a family. And the underbelly of a household is never pretty, ours no exception.” -Jodi Picoult
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” – Winnie the Pooh
“Grieving doesn’t make you imperfect. It makes you human.” – Sarah Dessen
“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” – Dr. Seuss
“The pain passes, but the beauty remains.” – Pierre Auguste Renoir
“And when great souls die,
after a period peace blooms,
slowly and always
irregularly. Spaces fill
with a kind of
soothing electric vibration.
Our senses, restored, never
to be the same, whisper to us.
They existed. They existed.
We can be. Be and be
better. For they existed.”
– Maya Angelou
“Death ends a life, not a relationship. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on- in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here.”- Mitch Albom
“I dont know why they call it heartbreak. It feels like every part of my body is broken too. ”- Chloe Woodward
“There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.” – Aeschylus
“At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer, we remember them.” – Sylvan Kamens & Rabbi Jack Reimer
“God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December.” – J.M. Barrie
“Tears are the silent language of grief.” – Voltaire
“Love is like the wind, you can’t see it but you can feel it.”
– Nicholas Sparks, (Grief Quote from A Walk to Remember)
“I know in my head that she has gone. The only difference is that I am getting used to the pain. It’s like discovering a great hole in the ground. To begin with, you forget it’s there and keep falling in. After a while, it’s still there, but you learn to walk round it.”- Rachel Joyce
“You gave me a forever within the numbered days…” – John Green, The Fault In Our Stars
“Walk on with hope in your heart and you’ll never walk alone.” – Rodgers and Hammerstein, Carousel
“I don’t think that we’re meant to understand it all the time. I think that sometimes we just have to have faith.” – Nicholas Sparks, (Grief Quote from A Walk to Remember)
“The grave itself is but a covered bridge, Leading from light to light, through a brief darkness!”
– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, The Golden Legend
“Every heart has its secret sorrows which the world knows not, and oftentimes we call a man cold, when he is only sad.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“Honest listening is one of the best medicines we can offer the dying and the bereaved.”- Jean Cameron
“Our grief is as individual as our lives.” – Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“Sometimes, only one person is missing, and the whole world seems depopulated.”- Alphonse de Lamartine
“Losing him was like having a hole shot straight through me, a painful, constant reminder, an absence I could never fill.”- Jojo Moyes
“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” – Vicki Harrison
“There is an ocean of silence between us… and I am drowning in it.” – Ranata Suzuki
“When one person is missing the whole world seems empty.” – Pat Schweibert
“Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time. It tell us to tell each other right now that we love each other.” – Leo Buscaglia
“A sad smile crossed her face, and I knew right then what she was trying to tell me. Her eyes never left mine as she finally said the words that numbed my soul.
‘I’m dying, Landon.’”
– Nicholas Sparks, (Grief Quote from A Walk to Remember)
“But when I do feel all the strength go out of me, and I fall to my knees beside the table and I think I cry, then, or at least I want to, and everything inside me screams for just one more kiss, one more word, one more glance, one more.”- Veronica Roth, Allegiant
“’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson
“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” – John Steinbeck
“When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as
the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.”
– Khalil Gibran, (Grief Quote from The Prophet)
“…the sad part is, that I will probably end up loving you without you for much longer than I loved you when I knew you.
Some people might find that strange.
But the truth of it is that the amount of love you feel for someone and the impact they have on you as a person, is in no way relative to the amount of time you have known them.”
– Ranata Suzuki
You may also want to read:
The 5 Grief Stages You May Go Through When Losing a Loved One
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