“In every friendship hearts grow and entwine themselves together, so that the two hearts seem to make only one heart with only a common thought. That is why separation is so painful; it is not so much two hearts separating, but one being torn asunder.”- Fulton J. Sheen
What do we look for in a friend? Are we looking for someone who will always be there for us? Are we looking for someone who is honest and who can keep our secrets? Are we looking for someone who can understand us?
Sometimes, I think people don’t really know what they are looking for. And because they do not know, they do not find.
They think that friends ought to be perfect. They think that friends are those who will never let them down. But who could qualify for such standards?
This does not mean however that we can’t really find friends. It doesn’t mean also that we have to stop looking.
When we start looking for them however, let us think again whom we desire to find.
Are we not looking after all for someone whose soul is somewhat similar to ours? Someone who can see our pain yet also see our courage?
Are we not looking after all for someone whose beauty gives us true delight? Someone who though imperfect, has that certain goodness we wish we had or wish we saw in ourselves?
A friend is someone whose soul is similar to yours. And what joy it is to be able to see that soul, and to see how beautiful it really is!
“And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.”
-Kahlil Gibran
A man of many companions may be ruined,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
-Proverbs 18:24, WEB
Greater love has no one than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. – John 15:13
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